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Me, Myself, My Phone, and to hell with you!

There was a time when we used to call those who talk while being all alone as ‘mad’ or ‘insane’.

Thanks to the advancement in mobile gadgets and technology, we now witness a phenomenal progress in this ‘madness’. Two people sitting at the same table and yet not talking to each other but each busy with his own handset!

I witnessed a family of four in a restaurant. Poor guys might have come out to dine ‘thinking to spend time together’ but the worst thing happened to them was ‘each one was spending time with their respective mobile phones, ultimately none speaking to each other!

Sometimes it is so irritating that you go to meet someone in person, and while you are with him he says ‘excuse me’ and starts talking to someone else over his ‘smartphone’! 

Now a days, the invisible person is given importance rather than the person who comes all along to meet you and is sitting in front of you!

I had bitter experience once when lodging a complaint at a corporate office, the counter person picked the phone, preferred him and took his complaint first. Those standing in queue were ignored by paying attention to the person over phone!

Also, it has become a fashion now a days to ignore a person by pretending to be busy over phone!

The question is who is in control? You or your gadget?

Who is important? What is ethics? Where is your value system?

In the Qur’an, Allah subhanahu wa Ta’aala, says about private conversations:

“O you who have believed, when you converse privately, do not converse about sin and aggression and disobedience to the Messenger but converse about righteousness and piety. And fear Allah, to whom you will be gathered.” (58: 9)

“Private conversation is only from Satan that he may grieve those who have believed, but he will not harm them at all except by permission of Allah. And upon Allah let the believers rely.” (Surah al Mujaadilah 58: 10)

Satan has devised many devices in present times to keep people aggrieved!

Prophet Muhammad (sal-lal-laahu-alaihi-wa-sallam) was the one who used to care about people’s feelings.

No one should be hurt due to your private conversation.

* Ibn ‘Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (sal-lal-laahu-alaihi-wa-sallam) said:

“In the presence of three people, two should not hold secret counsel, to the exclusion of the third.”

* Ibn Mas’ud (May Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (sal-lal-laahu-alaihi-wa-sallam) said:

“When three of you are together, two of you must not converse privately ignoring the third till the number increases, lest the third should be grieved.”

In today’s technologically mad world, do we not witness two people being together and suddenly one of them takes out his mobile, and starts talking to the third ignoring and ultimately hurting the person present?

The challenge of the modern world is to build better social relationships. 

May Allah give us the Tawfeeq to develop and maintain good manners in our life.

May Peace, Mercy and Blessings of Allah be upon Prophet Muhammad sal-lal-laahu-alaihi-wa-sallam, his family and companions.

Jazakallaahu Khayra for reading this post.

Find hadeeths references here and Riyadhus Saliheen

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September 9, 2013 - Posted by | Muqeet's (assorted), Reflections | , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,


  1. JazakALLAHU khairan akhi.
    I’l try to behave myself in this regard now in sha ALLAH.
    Really an unseen “person”, taking all the attention, Mobile/smart phone etc

    Comment by shjr-e-jannat | September 9, 2013 | Reply

    • Baarakallaahu feeki.

      Comment by MuQeet | September 10, 2013 | Reply

  2. JazakAllah.some one had to bell the cat. Very nice write up

    Comment by Abdul Nasir | September 10, 2013 | Reply

    • Alhamdulillaah.

      Comment by MuQeet | September 10, 2013 | Reply

  3. Assalaam Alaykum,
    I wrote a post similar to this not too long ago. I’m not a fan of being connected to all of the world 100% of the time, and I imagine it’s not good for us. It’s not natural. Unfortunately, as a student, I have to be a little connected, as now assignments are submitted online, research, etc… After I graduate, who knows, maybe I’ll disconnect completely!
    It’s really disheartening to see how unaware people are of their surroundings in general, then you throw cell phones in the mix, and it’s disastrous. Thanks for the post!

    Comment by lamouretlalune | September 10, 2013 | Reply

    • Wa alaikumus salam.
      Thank you for your comment.
      It is not practical to disconnect completely as we need to connect with people.
      Discretion is needed when and how to use which I feel is lacking in many of us.

      Comment by MuQeet | September 10, 2013 | Reply

  4. Profound. JazakAllaahu khayran.

    Comment by Zahra bint Zaki | September 10, 2013 | Reply

    • Baarakallaahu Feeki.

      Comment by MuQeet | September 11, 2013 | Reply

  5. Just one word – jazak’Allah – For such an amazing and timely reminder.

    Comment by Ayesha | September 23, 2013 | Reply

    • Your one word is what I need the most. If Allah accepts our effort and rewards us with abundant goodness, what else we need!
      Baarakallaahu feeki.

      Comment by MuQeet | September 23, 2013 | Reply

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