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A Letter to all Muslim Brothers…about Sisters!

Dear brothers in Islam, Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah.

This is to request all Muslim men – brothers, husbands, fathers, fathers-in-law and sons – to consider these two principal verses of the Glorious Qur’an and appreciate the graciousness of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’aala.

Salah (Prayer) and Sawm (Fasting) are two most important pillars of Islam. The interesting point to note is that Allah, while enjoining these obligatory acts of worship, uses a particular phrase that needs our attention, and because of which I said we must appreciate the graciousness of Allah, and of course the humane aspect of Islam. 

“O you who have believed, when you rise to [perform] prayer, wash your faces and your forearms to the elbows and wipe over your heads and wash your feet to the ankles. And if you are in a state of janabah, then purify yourselves. But if you are ill or on a journey or one of you comes from the place of relieving himself or you have contacted women and do not find water, then seek clean earth and wipe over your faces and hands with it. Allah does not intend to make difficulty for you, but He intends to purify you and complete His favor upon you that you may be grateful.” (Surah al Maa’idah 5: 6)

“The month of Ramadhan [is that] in which was revealed the Qur’an, a guidance for the people and clear proofs of guidance and criterion. So whoever sights [the new moon of] the month, let him fast it; and whoever is ill or on a journey – then an equal number of other days. Allah intends for you ease and does not intend for you hardship and [wants] for you to complete the period and to glorify Allah for that [to] which He has guided you; and perhaps you will be grateful.”. (Surah al Baqarah 2: 185)

This is Allah and Allah’s Way! Subhanallah!

Unfortunately we men make the life of  our women so difficult and horrible! More so in the month of Ramadhaan!!

As Muslims, we have to pray. We have to fast. We includes women as well. But unfortunately men take it for granted that a woman’s job is more at the kitchen than at the Sajjadah (Prayer mat)

We witness our mothers and sisters working tirelessly in this month. As if Ramadhaan comes for them to cook and serve men and family!! (and of course serve themselves, too!)

My intention is not to hurt anyone here. It is to remind all of us – Muslim men including myself – that cooking is important and eating as well. But there should be a method and a limit for that.

Ramadhaan is for fasting, not feasting!

We must think that women – our mothers, wives, sisters and daughters – too are bound by the rules and regulations of Fasting and Ibadaah as we are. They too have to pray and fast. They too have to read more of the Qur’an as we desire to read. They too must take adequate rest so that they too can offer Qiyam al Layl.

How tragic and disgusting it is to see women spending most of their time in Kitchen, cooking this, cooking that, as if our fasting will not be accepted by Allah if we don’t eat a particular dish!!

Let us stop this ‘Ramadhaan Madness’ this Ramadhaan, Inshaa’Allah.

And our dear sisters must also realise that in some way or the other they are also responsible for this Ramadhaan mess. In their desire to make good dishes in Ramadhaan, they spend more time in cooking and less time in doing Ibaadah. Time Management is essential in Ramadhaan.

Islam is a balanced way of life. Due to our lack of understanding and application of things, let us not make a mockery of the Muslim way of life!

Let me conclude by quoting another gracious verse from the Noble Qur’an:

“Allah wants to lighten your burdens, for man was created weak”. (Surah an-Nisaa 4: 28) 

July 15, 2012 - Posted by | Islamic Months: RAMADHAN, Reflections | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

30 Comments »

  1. Dear Br. Muqith,
    Assalamu alaikkum.
    I would like to share few more points:
    Let us complete all our purchases (provision & cloths) before Ramadhan. Let us avoid wasting time in visiting super markets. Unfortunately Ramadhan has become a marketing tool to promote business instead of saving the skin from hell fire. Shaitan has diverted the Ummah from fasting to feasting.
    No Iftaar parties please! except for poor and dawah purpose. Otherwise it takes lots of time of our sisters in kitchen and heavy iftaar – oh you have pay heavy price in Taraweeh and night ibadah. Say no with smile to Iftaar parties. Ramadhan is not for hosting parties using the pretext of Iftaar.

    Comment by Ataullah | July 15, 2012 | Reply

    • Wa alaikumus salam, dear Br.Ataullah.
      Jazakallahu Khayra for sharing important and relevant points about our attitude towards Ramadhaan.
      Thank you for your time and effort.
      May Allah give us the Tawfeeq and Hidayah to spend Ramadhaan with utmost Ibaadah. May He forgive our sins. Aameen.

      Comment by MuQeet | July 15, 2012 | Reply

  2. Reblogged this on ………….(blog no more exists!) and commented:
    ”A letter to all Muslim brothers……about sisters!

    As Ramadhaan is round the corner, I would like to request all Muslim men (fathers, fathers-in-law, boys, brothers) to consider these two principal verses of the Glorious Qur’an and appreciate the graciousness of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala.”

    Comment by IslamicChamper | July 15, 2012 | Reply

    • Jazakillah Khayra for reblogging, sister. Barakallahu Feeki.

      Comment by MuQeet | July 15, 2012 | Reply

  3. Al-Hamdullilah
    May Allah(swt)bless you for putting these points out there I agree 100%, I only wish that every muslim could see and read this as well as accept it as the truth, I feel that if most muslims studied tafseer it would make it so much easier. But that’s just my opinion, may Allah(swt) guide us all.

    Comment by Bilal Abubakr | July 15, 2012 | Reply

    • Jazakallah Khayr, brother. I agree with you that our lack of understanding of the Qur’an is the basic reason.
      May Allah accept your du’aa. Aameen.
      Vassalam.

      Comment by MuQeet | July 15, 2012 | Reply

  4. Jazakallah Brother

    Comment by Mohammed Irfan | July 16, 2012 | Reply

    • Wa iyyaaka, dear brother.

      Comment by MuQeet | July 16, 2012 | Reply

  5. Assalam alaik Br Muqeet, Masha’Allah I cannot agree more with you. Ramadan has turned into a month of feasting instead of fasting from our nafs.. and especially the sisters, we tend to waste too much time in the kitchen cooking just for iftaar. Good reminder masha’Allah!

    Comment by ummkhaleel | July 16, 2012 | Reply

    • Wa alaikumus salam, sister.
      Jazakillah Khayra for taking time to comment.
      I am happy that you do agree with me. Inshaa’Allah lets try to do our best possible Ibaadah in the upcoming blessed month.
      Barakallahu Feeki. Vassalam.

      Comment by MuQeet | July 16, 2012 | Reply

  6. Salaams bro. For this article, alhamduillah the words were very clear and straight forward, you didn’t offend nor hurt me, sometime you gotta get a little pain to get some kind of gain. And the gain is a beneficial reward. It seems as though, our weakness as Muslim is attributed to the fact that we don’t want to here the truth, even if it is starring us right in the face. And that it is sad that we have allowed ourselves to become so un-god conscious, and dunya tolerate that we have forgotten or choose to forget the favor Allah gave us in the Rasul’ Allah, and the miracle of qur’an. We can only pray and ask Allah to Cavour us this Ramadhan, and shower his blessing upon us, insha Allah. Ameen

    Comment by Bilal | July 3, 2013 | Reply

    • wa alaikumus salam, brother.
      Thank you for your expressing your feelings.
      May Allah accept your du’aa and bless you abundantly both in this world and in the Hereafter. Aameen.

      Comment by MuQeet | July 3, 2013 | Reply

  7. In which other religion would you find a man encouraging other men to be mercyfull and just towards women? This is why I love Islam! May Allah protect you from hell fire!
    Amin.

    Comment by proudamah | July 3, 2013 | Reply

    • Aameen to your du’aa and Jazaakallahu khayra.
      Islam is the only religion that is kind and considerate to its womenfolk. It is sad, however, that Muslim men do not (generally speaking) render justice to their better halves. Wallahu ‘Alam.

      Comment by MuQeet | July 3, 2013 | Reply

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  10. Ramdan Kareem!
    I just read this post, and Alhamdulillah, I and my husband have made our iftars very light and without wasting much time in kitchen. sisters can cut fruits and healthy snacks, fruit juices prepared at home with dates is more that enough, and yes, lets all say ‘no’ to iftar parties.
    May Allah help us reflect more in this blessed month! Ameen
    JazaakAllah brother Mukheet for this post.

    Comment by NasimEjaz | July 14, 2013 | Reply

    • Thank you and Ramadhaan Mubaarak to you and your family.
      Good advice, Mashaa’Allah.
      May Allah accept your du’aa. Aameen.
      Baarakallahu Feek. Vassalam.

      Comment by MuQeet | July 14, 2013 | Reply

  11. Reblogged this on Voice of an Outspoken Hijabi.

    Comment by OutspokenHijabi | July 17, 2013 | Reply

  12. Finally! Someone, and a man at that, has had the courage to speak up about this matter. May Allah reward you.

    Comment by qurankeeper | July 24, 2013 | Reply

    • Aameen. We need to our voice against such life-style!
      This must a topic for Jumu’ah khutbah. If only our Imaams understand!
      Jazakallaahu Khayra for your du’aa.
      And thanks for dropping by.
      Keep visiting, Inshaa’Allah.
      Baarakallaahu Feek.

      Comment by MuQeet | July 24, 2013 | Reply

  13. Wow. I never actually looked at it that way.

    Men take care of the family by working and ensuring there is a roof over their heads, clothes for them to wear and food for them to eat and the women take care of the family by maintaining the roof, clothes and food.

    I think men and women both have their equal share of responsibilities.

    I really learned not to expect men to cook, clean and do his laundry although it would be great if he did, but if he doesn’t, I don’t think it should be expected of him. Just as women should not be expected to work.

    Comment by Umm Aya | July 28, 2013 | Reply

    • Assalamu Alaikum.
      Yeah, I agree with you but for the last paragraph. Even men can do household chores as our Prophet (sal-lal-laahu-alaihi-wasallam) used to do, cleaning and laundry especially.
      In Ramadhaan the focus must be on ibaadah, not too much on cooking, whether done by women or men.
      Jazakallaahu Khayra for your comment. Keep visiting, Inshaa’Allah.

      Comment by MuQeet | July 28, 2013 | Reply

      • Wa alaykom as salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

        Yes, that is true. Exactly what I meant, it’s okay for men to do household chores but it should not be expected of them.

        You’re right, there’s a woman I know who wakes up, freshen up and walks straight to the kitchen and cook till close to maghrib. The time she comes out is to serve the food and break her fast. I’m not joking.

        I hope she at least makes dhikr while cooking.

        Great subject addressed, may Allah reward you for the reminder.

        Comment by Umm Aya | July 29, 2013 | Reply

        • Thank you for your concern and feedback.
          May Allah bless all of us with His choicest blessings in the auspicious last 10 days/nights of this blessed month.
          Vassalamu Alaikum.

          Comment by MuQeet | July 29, 2013 | Reply

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  16. JazakALlah for a great insight🙂 Hope all brothers and sisters will take heed and dont miss their taraweeh. Once belly is full its hard todo that extra ibaadah.

    Comment by Umm Mustafa | May 24, 2016 | Reply

    • InshaaAllah.
      Baarakallaahu Feek.

      Comment by MuQeet | May 24, 2016 | Reply

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