Luqman’s Advice: Model for Muslim Parents!
The Qur’ân contains ten precious advice Luqmân offered his son. Following is the list of this advice offered to Muslim parents, that they may communicate them to their children, family and members of society that they may implement them. If this valuable advice is followed and implemented then we will all be on the Straight Path leading to Paradise. Luqmân himself summed up in a few words the way to succeed in this life and on the Day of Judgement.
1. Luqmân warns his son against the greatest injustice man can do. Allâh said that Luqmân said:
“O my son! Join not in worship others with Allâh. Verily, joining others in worship with Allâh is a great injustice indeed.” [31:13]
Luqmân calls his son: “My Son”. To do so catches his son’s attention so that he may listen carefully to his father. Then he calls his son’s attention to Tawhid. Associating partners with Allah (Shirk), Luqmân said, ” Is a great injustice indeed “.
Therefore, the one who associates others with Allâh in worship does injustice to Allâh, the owner and Creator of the universe.
2. Luqmân reminds his son of the rights of his parents on him,
“and We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and good to his parents. His mother bore him upon weakness and hardship” [31:14]
Allah describes hardships mothers face bearing children.
“And his weaning is in two years, give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination.” [ 31:14]
Luqmân mentions the total dependence of infants on their mothers for two years. Thank Allâh, and then your parents. Beware that the final destination is to Allâh.
“And if they both strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly.” [31:15]
Luqmân tells his son that if the parents compel their children to commit Shirk with Allah, then do not follow their way: Allâh’s right comes first! This doesn’t mean that the children should shun the Mushrik parents: As long as they live, they must be treated in a kindly way.
3. Luqmân then describes some of Allâh’s Might.
“O my son! If it be equal to the weight of a grain of mustard seed, and tough it be as a rock, or in the Heavens or the earth, Allâh will bring it forth. Verily Allâh is subtle in bringing out that grain, well aware of its place.” [31:16]
Allâh’s Knowledge is so perfect that the existence of anything, big or small, is acknowledged and controlled by Him. Luqmân tries to impress his son reminding him of Allâh’s absolute control over His kingdom. Such might and power must not be challenged or ignored by anyone.
4. A great advice to Luqman’s son is to establish regular prayer, on time and with the best possible performance,
“O my son! Offer prayers perfectly.” [31:17]
Prayer is the direct connection between a Muslim and his Creator. Parents must take great care to teach and call upon their children to establish prayer.
5. Luqmân advises his son to “enjoin (people) for good, and forbid from evil.” [31:17]
If every Muslim observes this duty, then evil and mischief will have no place in Muslim society.
6. After the useful advice he offered his son, Luqmân recommended patience in implementing them, and in all matters of life:
“And bear with patience whatever befalls you. Verily, these are some of the important commandments ordered by Allâh with no exemption.” [31:17]
Patience is a righteous act ordered, and rewarded by Allâh.
7. Arrogance and pride is the cause of man’s downfall.
“And turn not your face away from men with pride.” [31:18]
8. To be moderate is a great attitude anyone can possess:
“Nor walk in insolence through the earth. Verily Allâh likes not each arrogant boaster.” [31:18]
Allâh does not like the arrogant and proud!
9. To be moderate in walking and talking is also one of Luqman’s advises to his son, “And be moderate (or show no insolence) in walking.” [31:19]
Islâm offers a code of conduct in every aspect of life. Even the way Muslims walk and talk are regulated. Islam offers guidelines in this regard that will produce the best behavior and generate respect.
10. Luqmân reminds his son that being harsh while talking will liken his voice to the braying of a donkey. Shouting does not win hearts; rather, it will offend and alienate people:
“And lower your voice. Verily the harshest of all voices is the voice (braying] of an ass!!” [31:19]
Luqmân shows great wisdom in his advice to his son. If Muslims parents take his example, and have their children implement these advice, then by Allâh’s permission the Muslim Ummah will be successful.
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